An Unexpected Grief Down Under

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Diabetes Health publisher Nadia Al-Samarrie and her brother, Jamal, during their teen years.

| Nov 14, 2011

Anyone who has lost a close family member to type 2 diabetes understands the grief and paralysis it creates, especially when the one who died was only 53.

Two weeks ago, my sister Mimi came by my home unannounced at midnight, which seemed odd because she had just left two hours before. I sensed that something horrible had happened. She held back her tears and spoke slowly while informing me that our brother Jamal had passed away. Surprisingly, my initial reaction was calm. He had type 2 diabetes and had struggled with managing it.

Three years ago, Jamal came to the U.S. to celebrate a monumental passage: his fiftieth birthday. It was then that I realized his diabetes was not well managed. Although Jamal was a bright and avid information seeker, he did not realize that his inability to sleep through the night had a direct correlation to his high blood sugars. Sleepwalking to the bathroom three times a night had become a way of life for him as his body struggled to rid itself of poisons.

After observing Jamal's daily routine, I realized that he was in need of a more aggressive therapy and a lower carb diet. I taught him about low-carb foods and the importance of testing his blood sugar. I even asked a local physician to see if he should be considered for insulin therapy. After seeing the physician, Jamal walked out with a new therapy that included both long- and short-acting insulin. My Irish-Iraqi twin brother had a new lease on life, with daily access to his sister-a person with whom he could discuss new ideas about how to better manage his diabetes.

Jamal came to the US looking gaunt and sleep-deprived. He left a vibrant man with a skip in his walk. I was so proud of him. He embraced his new therapy. Before he headed to the airport, he said " Sis, I have not felt this good in years." Translation: His blood sugars had not been under control for years.

Fortunately, Jamal was able to enjoy a couple of years of relatively good health before he passed. But I know that his passing is the toll his body paid for all the years his blood sugars were high. As a knowledgeable diabetes family member, I do understand how pivotal one's support team is. Many programs are popping up where knowledgeable readers like you can be lay support persons to people who are learning how to better manage their diabetes.

Below is an email my brother sent to my nephew Adrian, who works at Diabetes Health.

Happy new year, Adrian. This website is teaching me a lot. The links to the other websites are fantastic. Please give Nadia a hug for me.

Love,

Dad

As someone that has worked personally and professionally in the diabetes community for 20 years, I understand many of the challenges that type 1s and type 2s face. My former husband of almost 20 years is a type 1. This year marks his thirty-seventh anniversary of diabetes without one complication. The children and I are thankful for his good health. My mother, brother, and some of my grandparents on both my maternal and paternal sides passed away from type 2 diabetes complications.

Diabetes health is a topic close to home. Every year I get tested to insure that I do not have prediabetes. The toll on my family has been great. My children have not had the opportunity to have grandparents involved in their lives. Now they have lost an uncle who had a wicked sense of humor. A man who could perform stand-up monologues that left you rolling on the floor in laughter.

He was a loved man. Below is a link to an obituary guest book that the Western Australia newspaper provides online. http://www.legacy.com/guestbook/thewest-au/guestbook.aspx?n=jamal-al-samarrie&pid=154192348&eid=viewgb. You can see my entry date 10-27 by clicking on the link.

Please write editor@diabeteshealth.com and let me know if you would like us to provide something like this on diabeteshealth.com. Some might view an online obituary guest book as being in bad taste. I love the idea because it keeps Jamal alive. For the days where my heart aches and no one person can console me, I can go to the obituary guest book and read the beautiful things that family members, friends, and colleagues have written.

My dearest Jamal, losing you has forever changed me. May you rest in peace.

Nadia

 

Nadia Al-Samarrie is the cofounder, publisher, and editor-in-chief of Diabetes Health.

 

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Categories: Diabetes, Diabetes, Family , Food, High Blood Sugar, Insulin, Long Acting, Low Carb, Manage/Management, Prediabetes, Short Acting, Testing blood Sugars, Therapy, Type 2 Issues, Western Australia Newspaper


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Posted by amysmercer on 14 November 2011

Nadia,
I'm so sorry for your loss! My thoughts are with you.

Posted by bjkiah on 15 November 2011

So sorry for your loss. That article could have been about me so many years ago. Although I am Type 1 the information on how to manage my Diabetes wasn't available to me for most of my life. I'm thankful that I finally was able to get the information I needed. I too lost a dear friend a few years ago to this disease.

Posted by Anonymous on 16 November 2011

So sorry for your loss Nadia. Such a sad story but a very important one, highlighting how essential it is that people take responsibility for their own health. Australia, particularly Western Australia, has an outstanding diabetes information and help association. It is vital that people are proactive when it comes to their health. Diabetes is a nasty, insidious condition but there is a lot of help available if people would only access it.

Posted by Meagan on 19 November 2011

I'm so very sorry for your loss. You painted a beautiful picture of Jamal and how much he meant to his loved ones. Thank you for sharing this heartfelt story.

Posted by Anonymous on 23 November 2011

Thank you for sharing this moving personal tribute. So sorry for your loss.

Posted by Anonymous on 2 January 2012

I'm sorry for your loss. This has helped get me moving. My son 14yrs old is a type 1.5 diabetic his numbers are great. But his dads numbers are terrible he is a type 2. I'm going to be more supportive because I didn't relies howuch even as an adult he needs me to help him with his diabetes.

Posted by Anonymous on 26 January 2012

sorry for your lost may god be with you pray

Posted by Anonymous on 12 December 2012

I've had type 2 diabetes for at least 6 years but I have not recognized (Dealt with) how serious can be. I have eaten just about anything I wanted and read very little about what I should be doing. Now at 81 years of age it has dawned on me I should really pay attention to my diet and to nexercise more. I wonder if it's too late for me or should I make an effort to change.


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