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To Love a Diabetic

Apr 12, 2012

Katherine Marple

To love a diabetic is to be a doctor. It means helping her to remember her medications. It means driving her for an hour to the only 24 hour pharmacy when she's gotten the flu and can't take the Nyquil in the refrigerator. Or driving her to the hospital when the simple flu turns into bronchitis and her blood turns acidic.

To love a diabetic is to be patient. It means knowing that some days she won't feel good for no visible reason. It means canceling long term plans when suddenly she doesn't feel well enough to go on a trip. Or waiting to go to bed while she injects her bedtime insulin.

To love a diabetic is to be a priest. It means consoling her when she's tired and feels like she can't do it anymore. It means listening and not passing judgment while she tries to figure out her new dosages and makes mistakes. Or, during those tough times, listening to her burial wishes- just in case.

To love a diabetic is to be a guardian. It means standing up for her when strangers accuse her of being a drug addict. It means discreetly asking her friends to keep an eye on her when she's testing new medications and doesn't know the reactions to her body yet. Or staying up with her through the night because she's too afraid to fall asleep where a coma can find her.

To love a diabetic is to not be superficial. It means seeing her bruises as beauty marks. It means caressing the scars across her stomach. Or kissing her dry lips when she is hooked to IVs.

To love a diabetic is to be understanding. It means knowing that she doesn't mean to get hot tempered when her blood sugars are too high. It means listening to her when she asks to start a family soon. Or donating time and DNA to sciences you don't fully understand just because she asks you to and because it promises to cure her.

To love a diabetic is to be smart. It means researching new medications even though she never asks you to. It means listening to her explain her new findings in terms that aren't typical language. Or making her smile when she desperately wants to scream.

To love a diabetic is to be selfless. It means going to a restaurant based off the carbohydrates menu instead of the atmosphere. It means going without dinner when money is tight because you can buy her medication with it instead. Or testing your blood sugar on her new meter to make sure it's working properly even though you're terrified of needles.

To love a diabetic is to be brave. It means keeping your chin up while she talks about those scary moments. It means not allowing her medical mistakes to color your relationship with her emotionally. Or keeping positive spirits even though all of the websites and gatherings tell you she won't statistically make it past her 40s.

To love a diabetic is not easy. It means putting her medical needs before any other finances. It means worrying every moment that she is properly cared for even when you can't see her. And it means trusting her life in the hands of so many doctors who don't understand the full complexities of the disease.

Thank you for loving a diabetic.



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Posted by rosiolady on 17 April 2012

This seems over-the-top to me, at least most times. Of course there are times when things can be pretty bad and pretty dangerous for the diabetic. To the parent who asked about life expectancy, when I was diagnosed in 1970 at age 29, I was told that with excellent luck and perfect self care, I might even life to be 50. Well, hey...I'm 71! Don't pay attention to what anyone says about life expectancy. Of course diabetes is problematic, but it doesn't guarantee either early death or long life. No one can guarantee that for any reason. I wish I'd ever had family that cared for me as described above. I was an adult with one child a the time of diagnosis, and my family of origin felt that it was up to me to take care of myself. I never ever have found a partner or spouse who was caring as desribed. Nonetheless, I'm still here and able to write this comment. Oh, and I raised that child to adulthood by myself. I think he became somewhat of the caring, watchful "other" at a fairly young age. Well into adulthood now, one of his best friends is a type 1 diabetic. He is in law enforcement and is savvy as to when blood sugar issues are causing bad behavior. Having a type 1 mother is not all bad...

Posted by Anonymous on 17 April 2012

This is one of the most dopey things I've ever read on any diabetes website. How insulting to a diabetic and their families, plus freaking inaccurate. The world needs encouragement, not junk like this. Yes, indeed, this person needs a brand new endocrinologist. Pure shame on this article.

Posted by Anonymous on 18 April 2012

If I May come back in again to ask about the stats regarding life expectancy. Where are you getting them from is my question,I too never heard a diabetic only lives until aged 40, and never read it on any website.

My Father is type 1 since he was 12 and is a healthy, no complications and marathon runner, and living with it for 54 years.

Posted by Anonymous on 18 April 2012

I think this is a stupid, inaccurate artical. i ahev been diabetic for over 30 years wihtout a problem. This article is asking for people to pity a diabetic. i believe diabetes is just a part of who you are, your character. Please dont make diabetes sound like a terminal illness. Its just a way of life. Diabetics are no different than other people.

Posted by Anonymous on 20 April 2012

I agree that this article is a little over dramatic and inaccurate. My daughter is 13 and has been diabetic since she was 3. She lives a completely normal life with hardly any of these issues mentioned in the article. I would never dream of planning her funeral any time soon. Diabetes in general is very manageable when you monitor your blood sugars closely.

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